Living with your child.
Not without.
You are a mother. Even if no one sees that.
After the loss of my daughter Jasmijn, and my sons Tom and Tim, I found my way back to life.
Not by moving on.
By carrying them with me.
You know
exactly how this feels.
- Your environment has moved on — but you carry your child with you every day
- You feel guilty when you laugh, and guilty when you cry
- You want to keep your child close, but don’t know how
- You want to move forward — but don’t dare say that out loud
- You sometimes wonder: is it okay to be happy again?
- People say “time heals” — but it doesn’t feel that way
"There is a way to carry your child with you — and still fully live your life."
You are not broken. You are a mother who loves deeply. And that love doesn’t disappear with grief — it transforms.
I know this, because I lived it. After losing Jasmijn, Tom, and Tim, I found a way to live with my loss, not in it. That is what I want to show you.
I am Desirée.
Mother of Jasmijn, Tom and Tim.
Three times I carried new life. Three times I had to say goodbye. A miscarriage with Jasmijn, and two stillbirths, Tom and Tim, both due to HELLP syndrome.
After all of that, I found my way back. Not despite my children. Because of them.
Today I am a transformation coach, author of Stillborn, host of the podcast When Motherhood Takes a Different Path, and founder of the Stillborn Sisterhood. My mission: to show every mother that her child is forever part of her life and that life can be beautiful again.
Living with your child. Not without.
WHAT I OFFER
Find what fits you
Whether you are in the first weeks or years later, there is a place for you here.
Audiobook & E-book: Stillborn
A companion for the road ahead.
Something to listen to when life feels quiet, heavy, or uncertain.
Not a method.
Not a quick solution.
Just words that help you take the next step in your own time.
Coaching
Coaching for women after a life break.
We start where you are now.
Not by analysing everything, but by creating clarity, steadiness, and a future that feels like yours again.
Soft, grounded, reel.
Let’s walk this path together.
Stillborn Sisterhood
You are not alone.
Some women carry a motherhood shaped by loss. Stillborn Sisterhood is a space for those who understand without needing many words.
Connection. Recognition. Quiet strength.
A place where you don’t have to explain.
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE
You are not here to get over it.
You are here to carry it and live fully.
My approach is not about processing grief. It is about transformation
learning to live alongside your loss, with your child as part of your story.
Our clients love us
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Desirée has been an incredible support to me. I don’t know exactly how she does it, but time and again, she reminds me of my own strength and the powerful, loving connection I have with my stillborn daughter, Sanne. From that strength, I was able to face many challenging moments, my due date, pregnancy announcements, getting my period again, the first anniversary, and more. The most confronting moment of 2024 for me, however, was the maternity visit, and Desirée provided me with invaluable support during that time. She made me feel that while I have to go through this myself, I don’t have to do it alone.
I often left our sessions with a completely different energy than when I arrived. The change was so noticeable that even my husband started suggesting, “Maybe it’s time to schedule another session with Desirée.”
Desirée truly acknowledges the enormity of the loss and absence, while also encouraging me to bring the love for my child to the forefront. Because of this, I can now proudly say to everyone: I am the mother of two beautiful daughters to love and one to care for.
Karin, mother of Sophie and stillborn Sanne (2023)
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I met Desirée at a business event, and her story and mission touched me deeply. After the meeting, we had personal contact, and I decided to join her program, even though it had been 13 years since my last miscarriage. There was still so much I hadn’t fully processed back then, simply because the grief was too overwhelming.
During the program, we talked about my experiences, and it was incredibly healing. Desirée knows from her own experience, which means she doesn’t need any explanations. And the genuine understanding… you can feel it. It’s fundamentally different from people who simply listen.
Through this journey, my babies have found an even deeper place in my life, and I’ve been able to release them even more, in love. I wholeheartedly wish that every woman who has experienced one or more miscarriages or stillbirths would have the opportunity to work with Desirée.
Geertje, mother of two daughters and who has had nine miscarriages
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By joining the Stillborn Sisterhood, I have felt more supported in my journey after the loss of my stillborn son. Sharing experiences with other mothers brings a deep sense of recognition and understanding, but also a shared pride that we can celebrate together. Even though we often don’t need many words, we completely understand each other. It is such a relief to be in this safe and warm space where we can listen, share, and draw strength from one another.
What I also deeply appreciate is that Desirée offers the opportunity for one-on-one conversations. These sessions provide space to explore the thoughts and emotions I am dealing with at that moment. Desirée is highly understanding, listens attentively, and acts as a mirror, helping me gain clarity on what is going on inside me. Her objective perspective and coaching approach make me feel heard and supported in my personal process. After such a conversation, I feel acknowledged and relieved, allowing me to move forward with renewed strength.
This experience helps me integrate my loss into my life, and I am grateful for the support and insights I have found within the Stillborn Sisterhood.
Thuy, mother of stillborn David (2024)
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You are still a parent. Your love is everlasting.
And your life, even after loss, holds the promise of love.
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We’re here for you. With love, always.
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Groningen, The Netherlands
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contact@everlastingparenthood.com